For parents to be able to heal, before having children, is better. The best teaching for them is to show that they take care of themselves, but it’s not easy.
Most parents want the best for their children. However, a mother and a father must also demonstrate that they know how to take care of themselves. Psychological health of people begins long before conception. There are three stages during pregnancy to make room for the baby. The first goes from conception to the first fetal movements. The second stage is the period when the woman realizes that the baby is inside her. The third goes from the 34th week until the birth, and the anxiety is greater.
In the third stage it was discovered that if mental representations were balanced, children develop better in the first year of life. Here is that pregnancy is a very important moment for the history of bonding between children and parents. It therefore already starts from inside the belly. According to the relationship that parents have with their children, their way of relating and loving themselves and others will be formed. The attachment between parents and children can be secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Attachment is inherited from parents, from generation to generation.
Secure attachment is accessible to the child’s needs and validates the child’s emotions and autonomy. The avoidant one disconnects from their emotional world and connects little with their children. In anxious attachment , the parent does not consistently respond to the child’s needs. Disorganized is when the parent generates great confusion and terror in the child. It is essential to identify the type of attachment and work on the necessary. We try to give children a positive emotional legacy so that they can thrive and pass this legacy on to their future children.
- Heal before having children, so they don’t have to do it themselves (lamenteemeravigliosa.it)